I recently searched the Internet to find out what people were saying about how to write love letters. I found a ton of ebooks advertised. Many of the ads talked about writing love letters to make the man or woman of your dreams fall head over heels in love with you.
One website wants nearly a hundred bucks to show you how to do this. Yeah, right. Where did I put my wallet?
My whole philosophy about how I write love letters is so different. I think of love notes as spreading love around. I don’t do it to seduce someone. I don’t scheme, plot, connive. I just beam love like sunlight and don’t live in fear of what the response will be.
Rather than thinking of writing love letters to make someone fall in love with me, I think of the process as sending out a reflection of who I am on the inside. I write from the heart and I show them my soul. I don’t play aloof or hard to get. I don’t worry about appearing too eager or too easy.
I be who I am and I figure that sooner or later the right someone is going to resonate with me. My words will have impact not because I have skillfully manipulated somebody’s emotions but because I have written what I stand for and that person likes it.
Have you seen or read The Secret? It’s about the law of attraction and how it works. Of course, the law of attraction has been around for centuries and great teachers of motivational thinking and positive psychology have been teaching it all along.
The law of attraction essentially says that you create your reality by how you think. If you constantly think good stuff, you’ll attract good stuff to you. If you constantly think about doom and gloom, that’s the consciousness and experiences you’ll attract to you.
So here’s the deal: If I geared a mate search or ran a relationship with a mentality of I have to manipulate someone to love me, that’s what I am going to get back. The whole relationship will be a fraud. The person I would want to love me wouldn’t really love me; she would love a cardboard fantasy image of me. Chances are that she would be using similar tactics in an attempt to manipulate me!
I recommend using the law of attraction in a positive way. If you don’t have a relationship, use it to attract one. If you do have a relationship, use it to energize the bond you have created.
What does this mean in practical terms? Think about what you want to happen in your love life. Think about what you want to create. Then write about it with all your heart.
Avoid thinking about what you don’t want or don’t have. Since you create your own reality through your thoughts, beliefs, and expectations, focusing on bad stuff just attracts bad stuff to you.
Common sense says that by focusing on the positive, you’re just plain going to have a happier brain. Regular consistent love letter writing keeps the creative juices flowing, not just on paper but in real life. This ritual deliberately focuses your attention on what you love, and through the law of attraction creates more of the same, more of that good stuff.
If you’ve been in love before, you probably experienced how exhilarating it is. And why is that? Because when you’re falling in love you’re much more focused on how good life is and how great love is.
People who came together through emails and love letters often stop writing when they get together, and often, sure enough, they start focusing on what’s wrong with the relationship or what they suddenly decide is missing. And what happens then? They attract a brain full of yuck.
So when you sit down to write love letters, my advice is to think about your motives and intentions. Write with a pure heart. As you generate thoughts, remember the Golden Rule. Besides being an iconic saying, it’s also the law of attraction in action. Think and do as you would like done about and to you.
While many love letters are sweet and uplifting, some people’s passion swerves into the darkness of revenge, deception, or punishment. Go there at your own risk. Every minute that you stew in dark spaces is a minute you aren’t attracting good stuff to you.
I write love letters because I like spreading love around. It feels good to think of delicious things to write. It helps me focus on what specifically would make me very happy, and many of these things I know my partner will want, too.
I should point out that this is not just about romantic love. It can also be the love of friends (writing good friend letters) or spiritual buddies. I can be about family, too.
Love letters flow from my brain much more fluidly when I am coming from the heart, not censoring my thoughts or scheming to write what I think someone wants to read. I think of my love letters as truth letters because I am writing freely and speaking my reality.