This morning I had a hard time getting out of the house. For the longest time, I couldn’t find my wallet. I checked all the usual places it would usually turn up; on the kitchen counter, by the computer, in the refrigerator… (Not kidding.) Only when my mind started to accept the fact that I may have to leave without it, is when I became able to find it. It was actually lying in a bin where we keep our dog’s food. (Still not sure how it got there, but that’s another story anyway.) This phenomenon is actually quite common. For some reason, we only find something, when we become OK with not finding it. This encompasses the whole essence of releasing your emotional attachment to something. As you scan every word of this document you will discover new ways of thinking about letting go of your wants in order to actually get them easier.
There’s a well known saying that goes like this, “If you want something bad enough, you’ll get it.” In fact, the opposite of that is true. The more you want something, the more you end up pushing it away. I know you may find it hard to make sense. Many people wonder, why wanting something actually pushes it away from you.
Think of it this way. When you want something, you in essence are noticing that you don’t actually have it. Let me repeat that last sentence, because you need to remember it. When you want something, you in essence are noticing that you don’t actually have it. When you send your vibes about lacking anything, out into the universe, that’s precisely what you will receive.
So how do you get around this? Seems almost impossible doesn’t it? How do you want something without wanting it? After all, if you don’t at least conjure up the desire for it; there won’t be the motivation to go out and get it.
Now you’re probably thinking I’m going to ask you to think like a monk or sage and, “let go of your earthly desires.” But if you’ve read any of my material, you would definitely know that’s not my style. In fact, I’m salivating over a fire red sports car as I’m writing this piece.
It’s ok! You can absolutely want and desire things, but you need to do it in a certain way. Here’s the trick.
You can want something, but don’t let that want turn into a need. The moment your “want” turns into a “need,” negative feelings about it start to come up. Frustration and depression may arise from the fact that you don’t actually have it. Keep the want playful. Think of it as ordering something from an online store, like Amazon or Overstock. The moment you push the order through, how do you feel. You’re probably excited and optimistic about your item arriving at your door in the near future, right? That’s how attracting something should feel. When you feel the inevitability of something, it becomes just that!
Try getting into the feeling of wanting something, but being OK with the fact that you may never get it. I know, some wants are harder to feel this way about than others. Here’s a trick I learned from reading a book called “The Sedona Method,” by Hale Dwoskin. (Available for some time and an excellent read.)
First welcome the feeling as best you can. Remember, “What you resist persists.” Then visualize it as a stone in your hand. Hold that stone in a clenched fist. Ask yourself, “Could I let it go?” Regardless of your answer, say to yourself, “Yes.” Then ask yourself, “Would I let it go?” Again, regardless of your answer, say to yourself, “Yes.” Then open your hand and visualize dropping the stone. I don’t know why it works, but by doing this exercise, you really do feel you effectively let it go.
Even better; find ways to feel thankful for already receiving what you want.
Don’t write me off as a crackpot just yet. Let me break it down to something that makes a little more sense. Albert Einstein, Michio Kaku along with many other top physicists agree that time isn’t a constant flow from past, then present, then future. They theorize that all time happens all at once. Our limited perception actually makes us experience time in such a linear fashion. What’s even better; all possible outcomes happen all at once, and our observation collapses those possibilities into our reality. In other words, what you want to manifest into your life ALREADY belongs to you.
Also, don’t make your mentality so ridged with what you want to attract into your life. Play with the idea of getting something even better than what you desire, it just may be that something you did not considered yet. Your higher self (spirit, god, etc…), which is infinitely in tune with what’s best for you, may have a better idea waiting for you to accept.
Let me illustrate.
As an example let’s say Jim fell madly in love with Madeline. He thinks that she’s the most beautiful, intelligent, and sweetest person he ever met. But there’s a problem. She’s married and has been for the past 3 years. He’s so depressed over the not being able to start a relationship with her that he doesn’t notice Kimberly, a swimsuit model/open heart surgeon, keeps flirting with him over the course of a few weeks. And unless he lets go of his infatuation with Madeline he may never notice it.
Here’s the main idea you should take away from this article; life isn’t as serious as you may think. The more you can approach it with a curious and playful attitude the better. Experts agree that your higher self came to this existence to experience a fun time. They want to play in the awesomeness of mortality and limitation this existence offers. When you approach life in this manner everything comes easy, you make decisions intuitively, life’s good things seem to just fall into your lap.