This morning I had a hard time getting out of the house. For the longest time, I couldn’t find my wallet. I checked all the usual places it would usually turn up; on the kitchen counter, by the computer, in the refrigerator… (Not kidding.) Only when my mind started to accept the fact that I may have to leave without it, is when I became able to find it. It was actually lying in a bin where we keep our dog’s food. (Still not sure how it got there, but that’s another story anyway.) This phenomenon is actually quite common. For some reason, we only find something, when we become OK with not finding it. This encompasses the whole essence of releasing your emotional attachment to something. As you scan every word of this document you will discover new ways of thinking about letting go of your wants in order to actually get them easier.
There’s a well known saying that goes like this, “If you want something bad enough, you’ll get it.” In fact, the opposite of that is true. The more you want something, the more you end up pushing it away. I know you may find it hard to make sense. Many people wonder, why wanting something actually pushes it away from you.
Think of it this way. When you want something, you in essence are noticing that you don’t actually have it. Let me repeat that last sentence, because you need to remember it. When you want something, you in essence are noticing that you don’t actually have it. When you send your vibes about lacking anything, out into the universe, that’s precisely what you will receive.
So how do you get around this? Seems almost impossible doesn’t it? How do you want something without wanting it? After all, if you don’t at least conjure up the desire for it; there won’t be the motivation to go out and get it.
Now you’re probably thinking I’m going to ask you to think like a monk or sage and, “let go of your earthly desires.” But if you’ve read any of my material, you would definitely know that’s not my style. In fact, I’m salivating over a fire red sports car as I’m writing this piece.
It’s ok! You can absolutely want and desire things, but you need to do it in a certain way. Here’s the trick.
You can want something, but don’t let that want turn into a need. The moment your “want” turns into a “need,” negative feelings about it start to come up. Frustration and depression may arise from the fact that you don’t actually have it. Keep the want playful. Think of it as ordering something from an online store, like Amazon or Overstock. The moment you push the order through, how do you feel. You’re probably excited and optimistic about your item arriving at your door in the near future, right? That’s how attracting something should feel. When you feel the …